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June 11, 2008, 7:28 pm
Flag as Inappropriate alexis3  

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No more babies 

Everyone keeps telling me that I am too young to decide that I dont want anymore children. Is this always the case, people telling you their thoughts are right and your feelings are wrong. Last time I checked I knew that I wasnt ready to have more children, its not like I have been perm. "fixed", I have a BC that is an option to remove at anytime if I wish to try again. How young is too young, you tell me. 

June 11, 2008, 7:44 pm
Flag as Inappropriate Mercy says...

I don't think that the decision to have more children is based on your age at all. If you only want, or can afford, only one child, or ten, that's doesn't matter if you are 20 or 40 years old. The decision in my mind is based on many other factors determined by you and your mate's circumstances. 

June 11, 2008, 11:59 pm
Flag as Inappropriate english_roses says...

I think it's one of those things that people feel they have the right to tell, you, just like a pregnant woman for some reason elicits advice from all sorts (including those who have never had children!). If you are not interested, then you are not interested. Personally, I wouldn't do anything permanent yet, but that's your business. 

June 12, 2008, 7:00 am
Flag as Inappropriate George says...

I ran into the same problem as the Dr said I was too young to consider a vasectomy. I don't feel it is the Doctor's place to make that decision. It should come as advice or recommendation instead. I've known people who never wanted children and were forced to use birth control because doctors wouldn't do the procedure.

George 

June 12, 2008, 8:56 am
Flag as Inappropriate skatss says...

As with most things, people feel compelled to tell you what you should do. It's none of their business.

You already know your mind and you have every right to do as you please. You might think twice about sharing your feelings about something so personal in the future. Simply do as you desire and don't feel obligated to either talk about it or to explain yourself.

No one has any right to tell you what to do, especially when it concerns YOUR body. 

June 12, 2008, 12:49 pm
Flag as Inappropriate DianaR says...

I was 21 when I had my tubes done. I didn't have them tied, I had them cauterized to make sure nothing would go wrong. This was after I had my twins and, before them, had a daughter that died 3 days after her birth.

I don't think you are ever too young to make sure you retain control of your body and your life. The social affects of pregnancy are far reaching and, if you cannot get pregnant, you need never give them a second thought again. 

June 13, 2008, 11:25 am
Flag as Inappropriate pheinbaugh2 says...

My sister doesn't want any and she is 25. She has already been perminetly "fixed."
I love children. i only have 1 but i want many more!
I think you know whats best.if you say you are done than you are. end of descusion! :) 

June 13, 2008, 6:46 pm
Flag as Inappropriate fredkin says...

I think I would end up having some choice words at someone telling me what is good for me and what isn't, no matter my age at the time.

Having children is a personal choice and one that you can make - not others trying to make it for you. 

June 15, 2008, 4:52 pm
Flag as Inappropriate bubble says...

At the end of the day the choice is yours. I do not want any more children, I have two girls and that is plenty for me. After all it is not everyone else that will be going through a pregnancy and birth, and the upbringing there after. Dont listen to anyone else. 

June 18, 2008, 11:48 am
Flag as Inappropriate writersblock says...

I believe that it is totally your decision. Some people want to have a baby when they are in their 40's. Other are going threw mid life crisis and decide to have a baby.

If you are happy with the children you have, then you have the perfect family.

You haven't done anything permanent, so don't let others opinions change your mind. 

June 23, 2008, 8:27 am
Flag as Inappropriate Simplyme says...

I would not be bothered with someone else's opinion that was not directly affected by my decision (such as husband). Your life -your body- your choice.  

June 24, 2008, 5:27 am
Flag as Inappropriate Louise31 says...

Only you know what is right for you, I never wanted kids and had them I love my kids but if I could re live history I would have stuck to my decision not to, a doctor told me I was far to young at 20 to know I didnt want any but I think deep down if you know then do what is best for you. 

June 28, 2008, 5:55 pm
Flag as Inappropriate KrisNY says...

I think that you and only you know when you do want to have more children- or any children.
I know here sometimes they say that women are too young to have their tubes tied. My mom was 1 of them. She wanted to have her tubes tied after having me- I was the second.
I think you need to listen to your heart- but if you have any doubts- then birth control should be the way to go.