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May 22, 2008, 8:12 am
Flag as Inappropriate George  

This is a topic most men won't talk about even to their Dr or spouses/partners. It is something that is real and does exist but many guys feel it is unmanly to admit they are feeling depressed or down in the dumps for a long period of time. I used to be one of those but decided one day when I was seeing my normal Dr to talk to her about it. She was very surprised that I had brought it up and said most men don't.

I was tired and fed up of not feeling like myself! I never wanted to do anything, was always sad and a number of other things. Since I have been on meds I'm feeling and doing a lot better!!

Make the move guys if these things affect you.

George

Thank you so much for posting this.

Depression is an emotion that most men I know just won't admit to. Sometimes it is the job of the women in their lives to bring it up and force them to admit it, but hearing it from other men somehow makes it easier for men to talk about it.

Your suggestion makes a lot of sense. Talking to you doctor about it might just be the best thing. That way it can be dealt with without a great deal of embarrassment.

I think for many men the problem is less of not wanting to talk about it than not wanting to deal with the issue of trying to fix it. They've watched women try an cope with and change their depression without very good results in many cases and its probably even more depressing to think they might speak up and still get no relief. Its very daunting to know you could spend years trying to find a effective way to treat your depression.

Very true. Depression affects both parties involved, and if your partner is feeling down, it rubs off on you. There is a lot more pressure on men to just "suck it up" because they are the perceived head of the household, and are supposed to be able to deal with the pressure.

I know one male friend that told me for himself once a month he has issues mood swing wise similar to a female with PMS. He is the only man that has admitted this to me before though, so I'm not sure why others wont talk about something so troubling.

My husband sometimes has problems with depression. He usually won't say so and tells me he's tired or is having a problem with his arthritis. He started taking anti-depressants several years ago but they don't take care of all of the depression. Something keeps men from just saying outright that they are feeling depressed.

I asked my husband about this and he is all "no no no no we don't do that". I really wonder why some guys cant admit this kinda thing, even to those they are married to.

From time to time I get depressed, especially when the wife and I have 'issues'. Fortunately these times are not often and/or longlasting. Even though I'm one of those who prefer to deal with things my own way rather than going to the doc, my doctor and I have a very good relationship and I can talk things over very easily with him.

Hey George,

Great post. I agree that we men need to open up about this and get treatment instead of trying to tough it out. Sure, there are times when it's just a case of the blues. But when it's clinical depression, it needs medical help and I'm speaking from experience.

Fortunately, I have a very supportive wife who has gone through my bouts of depression and I am so grateful for her.

At one point I was hospitalized because I wanted to commit suicide and she was there for me.