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February 8, 2009, 7:41 pm
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I have a friend who is receiving treatment for self harming. Thing is I don't know how to be supportive because I don't understand it. Why do it-what does it do for them?

I believe that it is a case of control and of coping with stress. Somehow, self harm helps them cope-releases tension. I don't understand it either personally.

Well, it is a way of coping, when the person is otherwise unable to express their feelings or cope with what is going on. It can be dangerous too-accidental death can occur, even though that don't mean it.

I believe it comes down to control, and if you just suddenly stop the self harmer it can really mess them up.

It seems so strange that they would cope with one problem by causing another problem. The idea of cutting myself is a little scary-I just don't deal well with pain at all!

It is more common with young teens than any other age but can happen. My son did this for a while. He said it helped him to calm down as he could focus on the pain. Counseling and proper medications have helped a lot.

CallieO, how long did it take for your son to get this stage of his life under control? Was it a case of having to grow out of it or did the counselling really help him?

What exactly are they trying to self treat if you do not mind me asking? I know somethings are far more dangerous than others, so I thought I should ask just to make sure I know what we are talking about here.

I think stress is a big cause besides craving attention for some other people. It worries me that people are out there doing some of the bad things I have read about to themselves, even worse it could be someone close to you and you would not even notice.