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August 14, 2008, 9:23 pm
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My sister had a colostomy when they found her colon cancer. Unfortunately it isn't one that is flat, but the colon sticks out for a few inches. The doctors won't operate on it because she can't stop chemo long enough for the operation and they all say that the colon sticking out isn't unsafe or a threat to her health at all.

She now refuses to even see her close friends because of the lump that the colon causes. She insists that her friends know what the lump is and that it is too disgusting to let them see.

I tell her that because she wears very loose clothing that no one will notice the lump, but she is too ashamed to see anyone because of it. I've told her that it can only be noticed it if you look to find it and that it just looks like an extra fold of loose clothing. But she still refuses to let any of her friends visit her.

I'm asking the healthy people here. If your friend were going through colon cancer, would you care that they had a lump under their clothing?

I can understand her feelings all too well.

Its also something she has to get used to as well. Maybe shes not as comfortable as she can be.

When i was younger I was faced with a colostomy or change my diet drastically.

I knew a few kids who thought it was cool. look at what I have, and theyw oudl sit theer and look at whats supposed to be insuide n teh outside. Kids are more resiliant.

I think, that you shoudl get in touch with the colostomy support group and colostomy self managment educator at teh hospital to help her through it.

A nice long babydoll top and soft maternity style jeans, they ahve anice soft waist band and cover everything! will help her feel better.

No one ever really notices these things at all.

i wouldnt notice, I woudl notice a new hairdo, new makeup a ncie shirt or blouse.

I hope she gets to feeling better, Maybe yu could even talk with another GI man about the situation.

julie

Many people will worry when they are sick/etc and they don't want visitors for being embarrassed. I know its not what you want to hear but its the truth and I have seen it more than not. Try and explain why your there, not to embarrass but to help support.

Sometimes you have to let people go as they do not feel comfortable with visitors. In time they usually will let people see them.

It must be very difficult for her, but she must not feel bad about it, she really should not be isolating herself this way.

I would care more that the doctors won't alleviate the problem, even though she is still going through chemo. Her mental health is always as important as the physical treatment.

In her shoes, I might refuse chemo until the lump problem was taken care of.

Thats so sad to hear. I feel bad for her. I can`t say I don`t blame her for feeling that way though. Maybe in time she won`t be thinking that way. Or like someone else said get some long shirts or something to cover it up and no one will see it.

Sorry to hear the state of your sister condition. I think it is better to stop chemo for a while and remove again. Then again, please consult the doctor as I think he know best.

If my friend is in a condition such as that experience by your sister, I would be very worry for their health instead of being pre occupied with the lump. In fact, i am also very worry for your sister if though I hardly know her.

Do keep us update on her latest condition and I wish her all her best in her health. Ask her to take plenty of rest and don't think too much. Have faith in God and every thing will work out wonderfully. Be strong as there are many people in this world to support her.