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August 4, 2008, 6:07 pm
Flag as Inappropriate skatss
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Nursing Homes/Assisted Care
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I have a 96 year old aunt who put herself in a nursing home. It's a beautiful home where she has her own room and bathroom, cable television, and Kosher meals. She loves it there but it doesn't come cheap.
Her 72 year old son has dementia and is in a nursing home 3,000 miles away from her. He had gotten sick and his wife didn't want to take care of him so she put him in a home until he gets stronger.
My aunt loves where she is and her son, my cousin, is getting along nicely where he is. He's even taking part in the home's activities.
My aunt and cousin are pretty lucky because I know of other homes where they don't take care of their patients and just let them sit all day doing nothing.
I wonder if there are any legislation out there that demand that these homes take better care of the elderly. If someone has to go into a nursing home they and their family shouldn't be afraid that the home will ignore their patients.
One of my other aunts was put into one of these terrible homes where she died because of the neglect.
Elderly people deserve so much more than what they are given.
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August 4, 2008, 8:22 pm
Flag as Inappropriate CallieO says...
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There are laws and there are regulations governing nursing homes in every state. Unfortunately, there aren't enough inspectors to check often - many homes go 2-3 years or even more without an inspection. The best way is for the family to drop in unscheduled and see for themselves what is going on.
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August 5, 2008, 6:26 am
Flag as Inappropriate Simplyme says...
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I agree with you. Back in the day a good friend of mine had to put his father in a home and they pulled him out when they caught him drinking his own urine for the 3rd time. He had a brain tumor and it really affected him and he just was not receiving enough supervision.
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August 5, 2008, 10:19 am
Flag as Inappropriate ken7700 says...
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Nursing homes from my experience from my dad is something to stay away from if all possible.
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August 5, 2008, 11:17 pm
Flag as Inappropriate LaRita says...
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My grandmother had to be placed in a nursing home about a month ago. She went willingly because she was unable to live by herself any longer and had no family members who could care for her full time. She is however, in the early stages of Alzheimers and isn't quite herself at times. She has also had to have surgery on her leg because she had a large spot of skin cancer on it. My aunt told me the other day that even though she went in willingly, she was under the impression that after her leg had healed from surgery she would be going back to her home. Sadly, she really doesn't realize that she won't be going back home. Though they have been very good to her at the nursing home, it is so heartbreaking to hear her talk of when she goes home and know it's not going to happen.
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August 8, 2008, 10:14 pm
Flag as Inappropriate Lissy says...
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Yes, I completely agree - elderly people deserve the best care. Most of them have worked hard all their lives, did their best for their kids. It is only fair that they get the best care when they become old and need help. Unfortunately, we all know that there are "good" and "bad" nursing homes. When a relative of ours needed to place her mother into a nursing home, she had visited several and found the best one she could afford. She said some of them were plain terrible... I do not know how this is allowed in this country.
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August 12, 2008, 9:33 pm
Flag as Inappropriate MissyA says...
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Unfortunately, nursing homes, just like a lot of businesses are understaffed. In order to fill positions people are hired who sometimes do not have the highest work quality. The surest way to assure your family member will receive the best care in a nursing home is to be there as often as possible. Check things out and don't be afraid to speak up if you don't like how something is being done.
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